Marriage is a covenant or partnership of life between a man and a woman, which is ordered to the well-being of the spouses and the procreation and upbringing of children (Catechism of the Catholic Church #1601)
Marriage is a beautiful gift! It is a vocation. God calls many men and women to this path of discipleship, love, and holiness. From marriage is born the family, which is the basic cell and foundation of human society. As such, marriage carries enormous value, and our parishes seek to help couples prepare for lifelong, joy-filled marriage.
The Sacrament of Matrimony is not something that should be rushed or entered without proper preparation. If you are intending to celebrate your wedding in one of our parishes, please contact Fr. Daniel Weiske ([email protected] or 218-829-1340) to begin preparations. We require couples to begin preparation with a priest at least six months prior to the proposed wedding date. Any less time would be insufficient for adequate preparation. If six months seems like a long time, consider that those discerning other vocations have much longer periods of formal discernment - candidates for religious orders take three or more years and candidates for priesthood take six to eight years!
Each couple meets with a member of the clergy to prepare for marriage and also participates in a pre-marriage retreat weekend offered by the Diocese of Duluth or a neighboring diocese. We pray the wedding will be the start of an entire life in which the husband and wife cling to each other as one flesh, preparing each other and their whole family to enter the heavenly kingdom. To begin the process, contact Fr. Daniel!
Additional resources can be found at the U.S. Bishops' website www.foryourmarriage.org
My intended spouse and I really love the scenery of the Lakes area, can we be married outside?
The proper place for the celebration of marriage is in the church. Man and woman enter a covenant with God and each other, and this is properly done in God's house. God is the one who, in His love, will unite the couple. Catholic marriage requires the man and woman to exchange their consent to each other before the Church's minister and two witnesses, and this is done in the presence of the Lord. Marriage is not simply a private affair, but it is a public commitment with wide consequences, involving the whole church and the whole community. So there are many reasons to hold your wedding in the church proper.
I was married before and am not a Catholic, so why do I need to go through this whole annulment process before I get married to a Catholic? The Catholic Church sees marriage as sacred and God-given. Because it is the two Christian spouses who actually bring about a sacramental marriage when they exchange their consent, the Catholic Church recognizes marriages of non-Catholic Christians to each other as valid marriages. Thus, when a non-Catholic seeks to marry a Catholic in the Catholic Church, we presume that the person's first marriage is valid until proven otherwise.
If the bride-to-be is pregnant, can the couple be married in the Church?
Yes. The couple can be married, but even with the pregnancy, it is not wise to rush into anything. Each couple in this situation has a unique set of concerns which can be discussed with the priest.